When I first moved to Smithtown I had no friends. All my friends lived far and my closest at least an hour away. Two were in Staten Island, one in Brooklyn, two upstate and one in Florida. Thank God I had my family but I knew no one else. Being recently married at the time I was enjoying spending time with my husband and fixing our house but once the newlywed phase went away ........I was missing my girlfriends. The silly talks, the stories of our high school and college years and oooohhhhh "The Wine". Maybe I miss that one more. Then Lucas came and I was busy with him, nursing, working being a mom and all.....friends still far away. Noah followed and with two kids i had to make the sacrifice to travel to see them for my own sanity. They traveled to see me too but it wasnt the same as calling one up to meet for cofeee or a movie. They were too far. I needed girlfriends, friends to talk to and I needed my sanity or maybe get a little crazy with girls who would understand. Yes I had my lovely sisters but the one that shared my love for wine moved away to be a doctor. What?!!!! And the other wasn't a fan of wine. What?!!!!
Then the play dates with Lucas began and I met my first friend. I met her through Lucas. Her son and my Lucas became friends and so we became friends. Our husbands became friends and our younger sons of the same age became friends (or force to become friends, hey at this point they would not hold us back). It was great. Then Lucas became best friends with another kid and his mom and I became friends. I made my second friend. During that time a colleague of mine move to Long Island and was pregnant and we became friends and that friend in Brooklyn moved to Nassau and we were together once again. I rekindled an old friendship from college and she was close. Lucas pretend girlfriends mom and I became friends and then he went yo kindergarten and we met our neighbors at the bus stop ....friends and play dates.....school and I even met a great friend who like me has a similar disease to mine and goes to the same doctors and has the same treatments as me..... Another friend. In fact I have so many now I can't keep up. I love them all and I keep meeting more every day. The nice thing about these new friends is that we all understand the crazy life of being a mother. Some of them work and others don't but we all can relate to the crazy out of body experiences that we go through after being with our kids when they are whining or crying or having a tantrum. They don't look at me crazy. Even the single one is a kindergarten teacher and can relate.
My high school and college friends and I are still as close as ever and see each other at least twice a year at a spa or hotel. For two weekends a year we are back to the young girls from college that had no responsibilities. It's nice to unwind with them. Each and every one of them are fantastic women. They all bring out a side of me that has either been lost, hiding or never met before. They also make me feel normal and happy and just plain silly.
So all I needed was to have kids and I made friends, now I just need more time to hang out with them.
Oh and all of them....each and every one of them loves.....WINE!!!!!! 😋 The universal language.
Breaking news....my sister the non-drinker I have converted her. She is officially a wine drinker. So proud. Desperate times call for desperate measures.
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